All posts by anastacia81

I am an accountant by profession; however writing and expression have always been two of my passions. I love travelling and meeting people as well as baking and living life to its fullest.


What is time? We think that we have all the time in the world. We procrastinate, we stop doing the things we love in pursuit of the things that we are taught are more important. We suck at keeping time, making time and understanding time.

There was a time when I loved writing, when I could look at a blank canvas and start to fill it with words which would then turn into sentences but then I stopped. Now I have time, I’ve made time, I’ve decided it is time to start back all the things that I have laid aside. Time is what we make of it and while we have the time let us make a point to do that which we love and fill our time with good things. We often sit in the silence and waste it on dry thoughts and emotions but thank God for writing – it fills the time.


My feelings about Being Mary Jane

When I first heard of the show, I was excited and who wouldn’t be?! The story line seemed like the story of many a black woman. But even as I try to express how the show makes me feel, I’m so tempted to delete everything and go to sleep but what stops me is that I know by morning I would have the sane feelings again.

For those of you who watch the show, you would be familiar with the characters that I speak about. Every woman, black, white, mixed, yellow and blue has known what it is like being a woman. The sometimes, day in and day out struggle of being misunderstood or any other adjective that is deemed fit for us. I can relate to many of the situations that Mary Jane faces and that is what upsets me more than anything.

We, women that is, have all had our hearts broken at some point and some of us have had it broken by the same man. This man for Mary Jane, is David. He is her weak spot and we all have that person who is our weak spot. Frankly, mine compelled me to write a whole book about him but that is a completely different topic for a completely different time.

David, David, David, I shake my head. Why is it that the man who causes us pain is the man we always want? What upsets me about Mary Jane?Being Mary Jane! As hilarious and ironic as it may seem, the show has the perfect name. It is all about real situations, it may not happen in our lives in the hour that it may on the show but it happens. Many of us can relate, we may have even fast forwarded through some of the issues but we all scream at her not to make the choices she does because we know far too well how it turns out.

As nerve wrecking as it may be watching the show and in some cases being able to wonder if someone used actual footage from some aspects of my life…Being Mary Jane has been and will continue to be and I will be me and continue watch it in wonder and awe as she takes me on the journey I was to scared to admit I wanted to take.

What is good music again?

The Grammy’s were a couple of nights ago and I know that because of the rampant Facebook posts which I saw going back and forth giving a ball by ball or should I say a note by note coverage of everything that happened. I didn’t even need to turn on the TV because I just had to refresh Facebook every time I Thought another act was due to come on. My dislike for the Grammy’s has nothing to do with some of the singers per say but the fact that some of those singers have seemingly come so far when the likes of people like Atlantic Starr, Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder, Whitney Houston, Brian McKnight, Boyz II Men and many of the singers who I regard the best ever have seemingly stopped playing on the airwaves. Now these sounds are replayed with the likes of Justin Bieber, Taylor Swift and lest not forget Miley Cyrus.

During one of my refreshing moments I realized that some gay and straight couples were married and an uproar was born. My take on that is…BRAVO!!! I am no one to judge anyone when my ancestors slaved under the cry and lash of whips as they worked on the plantations under the white man so much years ago. I think gays have faced as much scrutiny and disgust as my ancestors by people who are not God. If you for yourself as an individual know that you are straight, like how I love men then worry not about the lifestyles of others. We were not put here to judge!

Back on track now, I miss these old time songs; oh my gosh, they have now been classified as “old time” because we have to listen to junk now strung together with a melody and classified as music. There are some acts which I love, some modern day acts who seem to have a bloodline set in soul and harmony. Where you can close your eyes and be taken away by their voices when you had a bad day and need to unwind. Who are these people? Well none other than: Adele, Fantasia, John Legend, Alicia Keys, Mariah Carey and a few others. 

Take a listen to this and tell me if it can even come close to “Wrecking Ball” 

Bring back the R&B and bring back the love!!!!